Sheep have a strong instinct to follow the sheep in front of them. When one sheep decides to go somewhere, the rest of the flock usually follows, even if it is not a good "decision." For example, sheep will follow each other to slaughter. If one sheep jumps over a cliff, the others are likely to follow. Even from birth, lambs are conditioned to follow the older members of the flock. This instinct is "hard-wired" into sheep. It's not something they "think" about.
I am 57 years old. I used to be a black sheep. Now I am a lion. I often have purple hair. I am married to Ray and we live just west of Chicago with our two dogs, Poppy and Daisy. I am passionate about animal welfare, and volunteer with several rescue organizations. I am an artist, mainly in mixed-media and fiber. I have studied art therapy at Northwestern University and The Art Institute of Chicago. Martha Beck, Inc. trained me as a coach and I earned my certification thru MBI. I have also received certification as a grief coach thru the Creative Grief Studio. I facilitate grief support groups at a local animal hospital. My greatest happiness comes when I am working with women – supporting, encouraging, offering safe space so that they may find their own voice and their own path. That is sacred.
I love sheep. I just don't want to be one. Especially when the 'leader' is leading me to certain death. Metaphorically, that is.
Many times in my life I have stood at the crossroads of life and soul-death. The choice often seemed to be between staying safe in the flock or stepping out on my own, between acceptance and love from others or acceptance and love for myself, between following or leading. It was, and still can be, a painful place. A difficult place.
During the course of my life I have been disowned, kicked out of college, and told I had a hard heart. I have been threatened, commanded and shamed. All because of honoring my truth. These are my 'to hell and back' stories - the ones that taught me so much about courage.
It is not always an easy choice, these 'crossroads' decisions. Being true sometimes comes at a price. Yet, what is gained is beyond measure. The strength to share our unique gifts. The courage to come home to ourselves. The freedom to express what is in our hearts. The joy of loving what we love. The passion to pursue OUR dreams.
I believe we each have a calling. A unique and glorious calling. We can ignore it or we can honor it. In every moment we get to choose.
If you are at a crossroads, I would be honored to help you find the courage you need to live the life you want. The invitation is the same for you as it is for me. Be true. Claim what is yours. Come out of hiding. Cut the chains that imprison you. Shuck the shame. Embrace your you-ness.
If you have any burning questions about the details of my life, feel free to contact me. I’m an open book. Sort of.